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Are you experiencing abuse?

YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

Text GBV to 065 989 9238

Are you experiencing abuse?

YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

Text GBV to 065 989 9238

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What is Gender Based Violence?

Sexual and Gender Based Violence (SGBV) refers to any act that is perpetrated against a person’s will and is based on gender norms and unequal power relationships.

Keeping Safe

I am still living with my abuser

If you are living with your abuser and you are deciding to leave there is some important information to consider so that you and your children and pets are safe. Here is a list of tips to help you and your family safely leave.

I have already left my abuser

Many women continue to experience abuse and harassment from their former partner long after they have left. It doesn’t matter how long ago you left your abuser, you can call the LifeLine Stop Gender-Based Violence Line in confidence,  0800 150 150. We won’t tell you what to do, but we can support you to understand your options and make a plan.

I am planning to leave my abuser

If you have decided to leave your abuser, it is important that you access specialist support. Leaving an abusive partner can be dangerous. He may become more abusive to try and regain control over you. It is very important that he doesn’t find out you are considering leaving.

Stories of Bravery

Join us everyday as we build the Wall-of-Witness, during the 16 Days of Activism Against Violence Against Women and Children.

25th November 2020 to 10th December 2020

A day of remembrance.

Our president has called Gender Based Violence(GBV) our “second pandemic” and called for a week of mourning. Mourning of the loss of lives to the COVID-19 pandemic, but also to those who we have lost to GBV.

How Being Stalked Changed My Life

Sam (not his real name) was funny, irreverent and flirtatious. I was scared and excited by him at the same time. But only once I had started a relationship with him, did I realise how dangerous he really was.

Harassment in the workplace.

I was so excited when a friend told me about a place that was looking for people to work. This excitement quickly turned to fear when I realised that my new boss was a predator.

Khwezi

Fezekile Kuzwayo, is a name that few recognise, she may be better known to you as “Khwezi” or “Accuser x”. Her name was erased to keep her identity protected at the time, while she was in the courts going up against former president Jacob Zuma where she alleged he raped her.

Suffering in silence: Jane’s story

Read Jane’s story about financial abuse and how she managed to empower herself to leave her abuser and start a new life.

I woke up under a bush in the park. I was naked.

I was celebrating the end of my exams with friends. I was having a meal and a few drinks at a restaurant I knew well. I took a few sips of my drink, and that is the last thing I remember.

The forgotten children of GBV


- “Family devastated after a man allegedly kills his four children.”
- “Limpopo father accused of killing his two children appears in court.”
The news headlines go on and on and on.

Me too.

I shared one of my stories (I say one of, because most women in South Africa I know have a few, and so do I) about two years ago when I still felt very optimistic about the change that the Me Too movement could make. Now I feel naïve for thinking so, but still incredibly grateful that it has created the opportunity for women to share their stories.

Lindiwe’s story

I am a married woman with two children, a girl of 5 years old and a little boy of 2. My husband has physically abused me for a long time now and I feel I just cannot take it anymore. I am afraid for my life.

Men are also abused.

I married the girl of my dreams and we had a beautiful baby together. We both had work and although we moved to live in a very small place we had dreams that after a year we would be able to move to somewhere better.

GBV in the Workplace

Complex power dynamics mean that sexual harassment as well as other forms of gender-based violence in the workplace can place a person in the position of having to risk not being believed or sufficiently supported and because of that losing their job or having to work in a place where they face daily trauma.

It all just became too much .......

Ever since I can remember my life has been terrible. I was born to a family living in a small farming community. My parents are strict church goers.

Shhh! A tale of a hidden reality : Uncle Joh's Story

Gender Based Violence does not only impact women. Read how Uncle Joh, a husband and father of two was abused and how shame clouded his life.

Report GBV.

GBV Command Centre -‪ 0800 428 428 Childline Toll Free - ‪0800 055 555 Human Trafficking Hotline - ‪0800 222 777

When my husband reads about a woman who has been murdered by her partner, he says ‘She must have been having an affair’.

I married my husband in a traditional ceremony when I was 25 and he was 35. At the time I was a newly qualified primary school teacher. He told me that he would look after me.

Even if you feel totally isolated, try to remember that you are not alone.

On this Human Rights Day, the 10th December 2020, reach out for support.

  • Women, stand together.
  • Men stand up.
  • South Africa, stand for justice.

10th December 2020

Even if you feel totally isolated, try to believe that you are not alone.

On this Human Rights Day, the 10th December 2020, reach out for support.

  • Women, stand together.
  • Men stand up.
  • South Africa, stand for justice.

9th December 2020

It all just became too much .......

Ever since I can remember my life has been terrible. I was born to a family living in a small farming community. My parents are strict church goers.

8th December 2020

Me too

I shared one of my stories (I say one of, because most women in South Africa I know have a few, and so do I) about two years ago when I still felt very optimistic about the change that the Me Too movement could make. Now I feel naïve for thinking so, but still incredibly grateful that it has created the opportunity for women to share their stories.

7th December 2020

Khwezi

Fezekile Kuzwayo, is a name that few recognise, she may be better known to you as “Khwezi” or “Accuser x”. Her name was erased to keep her identity protected at the time, while she was in the courts going up against former president Jacob Zuma where she alleged he raped her.

6th December 2020

When my husband reads about a woman who has been murdered by her partner, he says ‘She must have been having an affair’.

I married my husband in a traditional ceremony when I was 25 and he was 35. At the time I was a newly qualified primary school teacher. He told me that he would look after me.

5th December 2020

GBV in the Workplace

Complex power dynamics mean that sexual harassment as well as other forms of gender-based violence in the workplace can place a person in the position of having to risk not being believed or sufficiently supported and because of that losing their job or having to work in a place where they face daily trauma.

4th December 2020

The forgotten children of GBV


- “Family devastated after a man allegedly kills his four children.”
- “Limpopo father accused of killing his two children appears in court.”
The news headlines go on and on and on.

3rd December 2020

Harassment in the workplace.

I was so excited when a friend told me about a place that was looking for people to work. This excitement quickly turned to fear when I realised that my new boss was a predator.

2nd December 2020

Report GBV.

GBV Command Centre -‪ 0800 428 428 Childline Toll Free - ‪0800 055 555 Human Trafficking Hotline - ‪0800 222 777

1st December 2020

Men are also abused.

I married the girl of my dreams and we had a beautiful baby together. We both had work and although we moved to live in a very small place we had dreams that after a year we would be able to move to somewhere better.

30th November 2020

I woke up under a bush in the park. I was naked.

I was celebrating the end of my exams with friends. I was having a meal and a few drinks at a restaurant I knew well. I took a few sips of my drink, and that is the last thing I remember.

29th November 2020

How Being Stalked Changed My Life

Sam (not his real name) was funny, irreverent and flirtatious. I was scared and excited by him at the same time. But only once I had started a relationship with him, did I realise how dangerous he really was.

28th November 2020

Shhh! A tale of a hidden reality:
Uncle Joh's Story

Gender Based Violence does not only impact women. Read how Uncle Joh, a husband and father of two was abused and how shame clouded his life.

27th November 2020

Lindiwe’s story

I am a married woman with two children, a girl of 5 years old and a little boy of 2. My husband has physically abused me for a long time now and I feel I just cannot take it anymore. I am afraid for my life.

26th November 2020

Suffering in silence: Jane’s story

Read Jane’s story about financial abuse and how she managed to empower herself to leave her abuser and start a new life.

25th November 2020

A day of remembrance.

Our president has called Gender Based Violence(GBV) our “second pandemic” and called for a week of mourning. Mourning of the loss of lives to the COVID-19 pandemic, but also to those who we have lost to GBV.

Check back tomorrow for the next survival story.

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